Marriage Counseling and Couples Counseling
I am really passionate about helping couples regain their emotional connection, feel loved by their spouse, and restore their marriages. My preferred approach is to use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which studies have shown is highly effective for counseling couples. I work on helping couples identify the underlying issues that prevent them from feeling close to each other and to begin to feel more connected in their relationships and to be able to safely communicate.
Relationships can be difficult and many couples come to me ready to call it quits, experiencing deep emotional pain, or devastated by something that has just happened. Couples may sometimes feel their time together has been a rollercoaster of happy, memorable times and low, miserable times. Learning how to resolve issues and move forward together can be hard. Past hurts may need to be worked through and healed, communicating and listening skills learned, and compromises and changes made.
I know it's not easy to be in the situation you're in, possibly thinking there's no way things can get better. I want to encourage you that many people before you have thought the same thing, and it's amazing how relationships can be healed even when people think that the love or trust is gone forever or when they've gotten to the point they can't stand the other person.
Challenges Couples Face
There is hope! Marriage counseling or couples counseling may be able to give your relationship a second chance and let you work through tough issues in a safe environment. You can learn how to communicate, understand, and enjoy being with each other. You do need to be willing to commit to making changes and learning new things, but even a little effort can go a long way.
Which path will you choose?
Nothing is different
Hope for the future
Many times couples will come to counseling as a last resort before ending the marriage or splitting up and are looking for a quick fix. Just as it takes time for some of these problems to develop, it may take time to improve these problems. Many couples have realized that they were not making their marriage a priority and as a result many issues have developed. For many their careers, children, hobbies, or friends will come first. How much time have you been putting into your marriage compared to other areas of your life? Have you taken the time and effort to learn and strive to succeed at your job, in your community, or at your kids' school but have not put forth the same effort at home?
Some things to think about...
Is the so-called "easy way out" actually easy?
|Leaving your relationship now before you make one last whole-hearted effort and get help to mend it.||Being able to tell your children or yourself that you did everything you could to make things better.|
|Estimated average divorce costs of $20,000 (attorney fees, legal fees, etc.). Downsizing to 2 homes. Ongoing costs include alimony and/or child support.||Spending much less to work on your relationship.|
|The long term emotional scars, baggage, and wondering "what if" for both of you.||Working on yourself so you'll hopefully heal your current relationship and even if you do split up, you'll have learned valuable skills for the future.|
|A broken or blended (step) family - trying to get everyone in agreement and splitting time.||Holidays, vacations, and life together.|
|Seeing your children view someone new as one of their parents, or seeing the other person love someone else.||Knowing you weren't part of the cause of emotional damage which can stick with people for years or a lifetime.|
If you're ready for a change, give me a call so we can begin to work together to make your marriage or relationship happy and fulfilling! I encourage you to call now and not let another day go by where you aren't taking the right steps to make your relationship whole again. Even if your spouse or the other person isn't interested in counseling right now, you can still make a difference in the relationship.